I don't normally talk too much about my personal life here on dA. I try to keep a more professional atmosphere. But a few things have happened recently that got me thinking and wondering...
I've was dealt the punch-in-the-gut phrase that every guy dreads recently after being pretty sure that everything was working out really well. The old "Let's just be friends" line...
Quick history lesson: This lady and I had tried dating a few years ago but it ended after a couple weeks because our futures were heading in different directions. I am very city-oriented and she wants to live in the country. A few months ago we had started hanging out a lot again, and I raised the question on whether we could try dating again. She was all about it at the time, but had made a year-long covenant with herself to not date anyone (due to a couple rough relationships). So all I had to do was wait. I felt I'd be happy with any future as long as she was in it...city or country. Well, it seems she doesn't feel the same way. She had said for me not to wait for her, and I won't say that I was. But she was still at the top of my list and I tried showing her that a relationship really could work (without being blatant about it). Heh, we all now know how that ended.
I feel like I was born several decades...perhaps centuries...too late for the type of woman and life-style I want or am made for. And I fear as time goes by it's going to get more difficult to find a woman that hasn't been corrupted by the society we live in. Sad part is that I live in Arkansas, the one of the least corrupted areas of the United States. I've see girls half my age flaunting themselves, heard 14-year-olds talk about their sex life in public. And this is supposed to be the bible belt of America...Did I miss something??
I don't really think I'm particularly picky when it comes to the women I prefer. I used to be sorely against alcohol, but I've overcome that. Social drinking is fine to me. I actually find modest attire sexy (which will be the hardest attribute to come across). Aside from those all I want is someone shorter (I'm 6 foot so that isn't difficult), slightly younger (currently 25, so good odds there)...and that's about it. Of course I have to find her attractive, but that isn't exactly a narrow field for me either.
Many friends have stated that there's no reason I should be single. Two of my best friends are married. One while he was dating his now wife, she would joke that he was her boyfriend and I was her eye-candy. I guess a big part of it is (and several friends can attest), I'm a wuss. I don't like rejection any more than anyone else, but I tend to do everything I can in my power to avoid it. I have gone out of my comfort zone a few times and was successfully rejected, but I don't want to make a habit of it. As much as I love technology, I'd rather not have to resort to a dating site, but going to a bar to meet women would be much worse.
So far I've been in 4 official relationships:
First, happened during my junior year of high school. I was too scared to even hold her hand, she was jealous of a several year long friendship with a female friend.
Lesson learned: don't be afraid of direct contact and communication is key.
Second, happened senior year of high school. First girl that I would have considered out of my league. She apparently got bored.
Lesson learned: confidence boost (I thought I was ugly at the time)
Third, happened during my sophomore year of college. Happened faster than it should have. She showed me the woman I wanted to be with, but the trick was that she was a lie.
Lesson learned: humility (I had started building a sense of arrogance against others because of something I used to possess)
Fourth, happened during my senior year of college and most successful so far. I had personal issues that needed to be dealt with (and still am dealing with) and she was too focused on me and not enough on her own education.
Lesson learned: patience
The young lady mentioned at the beginning of this journal isn't a part of the 4 aforementioned relationships, but I was hoping to resolve that...I guess I must continue to be patient...dang it. An issue that has arisen is that a good friend of mentioned lady peaked my interest, but I don't want her to think she's "second choice" or I come across as the type that thinks "if I can't have her perhaps her I can have her friend". I ran into to that scenario several years ago, but I won't go into that. Let's just say, I may be a wuss when it come to talking to women, but I'm definitely
not "like every other guy".
Some good things have indeed come about in my life recently:
I have finally been successful in acquiring a quality job that will provide some decent paychecks. I've met my boss and she seems awesome and really has her employees' futures in mind. If you're my friend on facebook, you'll be able to see my actual job title on there. I'll finally be able to mark a couple of the "BIG" purchases off my list very soon.
First order of business: new car. Currently looking at a 2010 Nissan Sentra. Once that's taken care of, then I'll be in the market for an apartment. My mom and step-dad have been awesome letting me get my feet on the ground these past few years, but I definitely don't want to stay under their roof forever, lol.
Development of my video game is still running smoothly, as well as its sequel. Another project I'm working on with
,
, and another whom has yet to join the Devious Side, is starting to pick up some steam...(Hah! Pun for my collaborators)
There is still one more open spot on the team, so if you're interested and want more info send me a note and I'll give you a run-down on what we're doing...
Hopefully this wasn't too long-winded, wordy, boring, etc....
Comment if you wish...especially if you know any cute ladies looking for their cliched "knight in shining armor". Just let them know that I like long walks on the beach, romantic candle-lit dinners, cute puppies,...*fades to silence*
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